Points of Wisdom

The EX...

Someone emailed this to me and I thought that it would be nice if I share it to all of you...

The EX
by: Anonymous

Now I have an idea why people make such big deals about exes. Y'know... stuff like, getting over the ex. Dealing with the ex. Being friends with the ex. Being the ex.

I am an ex. I know that it's a stupid -- and silly -- to sound as if my whole life revolved around being somebody's ex-girlfriend. But I can't help it...that title packs a pretty strong punch. I am now and official member of the "love-and-lost" club. And while it's a title I don't exactly want, I have to admit tht it does say something about me.

I am an ex. I once loved someone who loved me back. But he didn't want to stay...so I had to let him go.

I cried. A lot. I spent countless nights wondering what went wrong, muffling my sobs with my pillows so my parents wouldn't suspect that something was amiss. I'd reminisce about our happy times, then break down when i'd realize that he was no longer mine. I analyzed every single detail of our breakup. I wrote long e-mails to my closest friends. I talked endlessly about my situation. I spent my nights in tearful telephone conversations and my days in daydreams where we'd end up in each other's arms again.

Sometimes he was still my angel, still my knight is shinning armor who i'd do anything for just to have back. But sometimes, I saw him as the devil incarnate who broke my heart in the worst possible way, and who deserved to be horsewhipped at the very least.

I told myself that it was all for the better. That this was what was best for the both of us. That this was God's plan. My friends offered similar advice, none of which I had't heard before: "It's a sign that you're not meant for each other", " When God closed a door, He opens a window", "Someone better is coming for you", "There are so many other fish in the sea", etc.

But it didn't work. Because deep down, I still believe that he was the one, the only one. And I couldn't understand how this was all for the better...when everyday seemed more torturous that the last...not being able to be with him the way I wanted to be, seeing him so unaffected, and dealing with my broken-and-smashed heart and my bruise ego.

I tried to immerse myself in other activities to forget about him. I went out a lot. I filled my schedule with movie marathons, shopping sprees, and Dance maniax. It worked for a while..but then there were times -- times when my mind was cleared of the busy thoughts I tried to occupy it with -- that I would think of him. His memory would sneak up to me on tiptoes, catching me in worst vulnerable moments.

I tried to show the world hat i was OK. That i was over him. That is was fime just being friends. I didn't go around with a big "X" on my forehead, not did I go around with puffy eyes and tissue box. I tried to live my life as I knew it before I met him. People thought that i was doing great.

They heard me laugh and they saw me smile; I seemed happy, they said; and I told myself that I was. But in the solace of my room, where I tried to organize my thoughts and sort our my feelings, I had to admit to myself that I wasn't truly happy. Because I was still yearning for someone, and my heart still ached for something that could not be.

It's been over 5 months now since we broke up, surprisingly, things have gotten better. I've changed. Somewhere along the way, I realized tht he wasn't the only one out there for me. I also realized that there were valid, powerful reasons why we split up.

And I've become stronger, older, wiser.

He's changed as well -- when i look at him, sometimes I still see the boy I fell in love with. Sometimes I think tht he's the same person...he still has the same goofy smile and mischievous charm that I fell for, and I like to believe that the rest of him is unchanged as well. But then I take a closer look and I realize that he HAS changed...that I don't know him anymore, not really...not enough to love and care for him as I once did.

I am an ex. I've loved and lost. I've cried tears for the things that were and that could have been. I've wrestled with intense feelings of love and hate, or jealousy, of frustration. I've simultaneously taked down and brought up my pride. I've tried to rebuild my world without the person whom it used to revolve around. I've tried to save myself from the depths of depression and self-pity, and when I couldn't do that, I turned to God for help.

I don't know exactly what I gained, or how much I lost. Maybe someday it will all be clear to me...then again, maybe not.

Pointers from Bob Ong

Ayon kay Bob Ong:

1. 'Kung hindi mo mahal ang isang tao, wag ka nang magpakita ng motibo para mahalin ka nya..'
2. 'Huwag mong bitawan ang bagay na hindi mo kayang makitang hawak ng iba.'
3. 'Huwag mong hawakan kung alam mong bibitawan mo lang.'
4. 'Huwag na huwag ka hahawak kapag alam mong may hawak ka na.'
5. 'Parang elevator lang yan eh, bakit mo pagsisiksikan ung sarili mo kung walang pwesto para sayo. Eh meron naman hagdan, ayaw mo lang pansinin.'
6. 'Kung maghihintay ka nang lalandi sayo, walang mangyayari sa buhay mo.. Dapat lumandi ka din.'
7. 'Pag may mahal ka at ayaw sayo, hayaan mo. Malay mo sa mga susunod na araw ayaw mo na din sa kanya, naunahan ka lang.'
8. 'Hiwalayan na kung di ka na masaya. Walang gamot sa tanga kundi pagkukusa.'
9. 'Pag hindi ka mahal ng mahal mo wag ka magreklamo. Kasi may mga tao rin na di mo mahal pero mahal ka.. Kaya quits lang.'
10. 'Kung dalawa ang mahal mo, piliin mo yung pangalawa. Kasi hindi ka naman magmamahal ng iba kung mahal mo talaga yung una.'
11. 'Hindi porke't madalas mong ka-chat, kausap sa telepono, kasama sa mga lakad o ka-text ng wantusawa eh may gusto sayo at magkakatuluyan kayo. Meron lang talagang mga taong sadyang friendly, sweet, flirt, malandi, pa-fall o paasa.'
12. 'Huwag magmadali sa babae o lalaki. Tatlo, lima , sampung taon, mag-iiba ang pamantayan mo at maiisip mong hindi pala tamang pumili ng kapareha dahil lang maganda o nakakalibog ito. Totoong mas mahalaga ang kalooban ng tao higit sa anuman. Sa paglipas ng panahon, maging ang mga crush ng bayan nagmumukha ding pandesal, maniwala ka.'
13. 'Minsan kahit ikaw ang nakaschedule, kailangan mo pa rin maghintay, kasi hindi ikaw ang priority.'
14. 'Mahirap pumapel sa buhay ng tao. Lalo na kung hindi ikaw yung bida sa script na pinili nya.'
15. 'Alam mo ba kung gaano kalayo ang pagitan ng dalawang tao pag nagtalikuran na sila? Kailangan mong libutin ang buong mundo para lang makaharap ulit ang taong tinalikuran mo.'
16. 'Mas mabuting mabigo sa paggawa ng isang bagay kesa magtagumpay sa paggawa ng wala'
17. 'Hindi lahat ng kaya mong intindihin ay katotohan, at hindi lahat ng hindi mo kayang intindihin ay kasinungalingan'
18. 'Kung nagmahal ka ng taong di dapat at nasaktan ka, wag mong sisihin ang puso mo. Tumitibok lng yan para mag-supply ng dugo sa katawan mo. Ngayon, kung magaling ka sa anatomy at ang sisisihin mo naman ay ang hypothalamus mo na kumokontrol ng emotions mo, mali ka pa rin! Bakit? Utang na loob! Wag mong isisi sa body organs mo ang mga sama ng loob mo sa buhay! Tandaan mo: magiging masaya ka lang kung matututo kang tanggapin na hindi ang puso, utak, atay o bituka mo ang may kasalanan sa lahat ng nangyari sayo, kundi IKAW mismo!'
19. 'Pakawalan mo yung mga bagay na nakakasakit sa iyo kahit na pinasasaya ka nito. Wag mong hintayin ang araw na sakit na lang ang nararamdaman mo at iniwan ka na ng kasiyahan mo.'
20. 'Gamitin ang puso para alagaan ang mga taong malalapit sa iyo. Gamitin ang utak para alagaan ang sarili mo.'
21. 'Ang pag-ibig parang imburnal...nakakata kot mahulog...at kapag nahulog ka, it's either by accident or talagang tanga ka..'

Buhay AMERICA

Akala ng mga tao na nasa Pilipinas kapag nasa America ka akala nila madami ka ng pera. Ang totoo, madami kang utang, dahil credit card lahat ang gamit mo sa pagbili mo ng mga gamit mo. Kailangan mo gumamit ng credit card para magka-credit history ka, kase kapag hindi ka umutang o wala kang utang, ibig sabihin wala kang kapasidad magbayad. Akala nila mayaman ka na kase may kotse ka na. Ang totoo, kapag hindi ka bumili ng kotse sa America maglalakad ka ng milya-milya sa ilalim ng init ng araw o kaya sa snow. walang jeepney, tricycle o padyak sa America. Akala nila masaya ang buhay sa Amerika, Ang totoo, puro ka trabaho, kase pag di ka nagtrabaho, wala kang pambayad ng bills mo sa kotse, credit cards, ilaw, tubig, insurance, bahay at iba pa. Hindi ka na pwedeng tumambay sa kapit-bahay, kase busy din sila maghanap-buhay pangbayad ng bills nila. Akala nila masaya ka kase nagpapadala ka ng pictures mo sa DisneyLand, Seaworld, SixFlags, Universal Studios at iba pang attractions. Ang totoo, kailangang ngumiti ka, kasi nagbayad ka ng $70.00 para makarating ka dun, kailangan mo naman ng 10 hours na suweldo mong pinangbayad sa ticket. Akala nila malaki na ang kinikita mo kase dolyar na sweldo mo. Ang totoo, malaki pagpinalit mo ng peso, pero dolyar din ang gastos mo sa America. Ibig sabihin ang dolyar mong kinita sa presyong dolyar mo din gagastusin. Ang 15.00 pesos na sardinas sa Pilipinas $1.00 sa America, and isang pakete ng sigarilyo sa Pilipinas 40.00, sa America $6.50, ang upa mo sa bahay na P10,000 sa Pilipinas, sa America $1,000.

Akala nila buhay milyonaryo ka na kase ang ganda ng bahay at kotse mo. Ang totoo milyon ang utang mo. Ang bago mong kotse 5 taon mong huhulugan o higit pa. Ang bahay 30 taon mong huhulugan. Ibig sabihin, alipin ka ng bahay at kotse mo.

Madaming naghahangad na makarating sa America . Lalo na mga nurses, at yung mga mahirap maging normal na manggagawa sa Pilipinas. Madalas pagod ka sa trabaho. Pag dating ng sweldo mo, kulang pa sa pagkain mo. Pero ganuon din sa ibang bansa katulad dito sa America. Hindi ibig sabihin dolyar na ang sweldo mo, yayaman ka na, kailangan mo ding magbanat ng buto para mabuhay ka sa ibang bansa. Isang malaking sakripisyo ang pag-alis mo sa bansang pinagsilangan at malungkot iwanan ang mga mahal sa buhay. hindi pinupulot ang pera o pinipitas. Hindi ako naninira ng pangarap, gusto ka lang buksan ang bintana ng katotohanan. ...KAYA PAG-ISIPAN NINYO MABUTI KUNG GUSTO NIO D2 SA AMERICA.

WHEN I TRAVEL, PEOPLE OFTEN ASK ME, WHY I LEFT THE PHILIPPINES ? WELL HERE IT IS..........

It is the only place on earth where.

1. Every street has a basketball court.
2. Even doctors, lawyers and engineers are unemployed
3. Doctors study to become nurses FOR employment abroad
4. Students pay more money than they will earn afterwards
5. Call Center employees earn more money than teachers and nurses 6) Driving 4 KMS can take as much as 4 hrs.
6. Where Colonial mentality is dishonestly denied
7. People can pay to defy the law.
8. Floodwaters take up more than 90 percent of the streets during the rainy season.
9. Where everyone has a relative abroad who keeps them alive
10. Where insurance does not work
11. Where water can only be classified as tap or dirty
12. Clean water is for sale (35.00 pesos per galloon)
13. Where the government makes the people pray for miracles (AMEN to that)
14. Traffic signs are merely suggestions, not regulations
15. Where being mugged is normal and it happens to everyone; a cellphone costs your life
16. The definition of traffic is the 'non-movement' of vehicles
17. Where the fighter planes of the 1940's are used for military engagements
18. The NEW FIGHTER PLANES are displayed in Museums
19. Where soap operas tell the realities of life and where the news are provides drama
20. Where actors make the rules and where the politicians provide the entertainment
21. People can get away with stealing TRILLIONS of Pesos but not a Thousand
22. Where the squatters have more to complain (even if they do not pay their tax) than those employed and have their tax automatically deducted from their salaries; the government coddles squatters
23. And where everyone wants to leave the country.

According to a Manila businessman: THERE IS SO MUCH WIT IN THE PHILIPPINES BECAUSE 'WE ARE A COUNTRY WHERE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR IS NEEDED TO SURVIVE'. WE HAVE a 24-HR COMEDY SHOW HERE CALLED THE GOVERNMENT AND A HUGE RESERVE OF COMEDIANS MADE UP MOSTLY OF POLITICIANS AND BAD ACTORS.

SO KABABAYAN, WHERE ELSE IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU WANT TO LIVE?